Showing posts with label compassion. Show all posts
Showing posts with label compassion. Show all posts
Monday, October 2, 2017
Tragedy all around us
Las night in Las Vegas a gunman open fired on a concert killing at last count 58 people and wounding over 500 . The last month has seen devastating earthquakes in Mexico, Hurricanes in Texas, Florida and Puerto Rico as well as other islands. Fires ravage many states
People are struggling all around us. Some of us have been lucky enough to not have been directly affected by any of these. Some of us may have close family and friends affected. Many feel a sense of fear and hopelessness at the tragedies that surround them. We want to help. Where can we send money, food, clothing? Where can we donate? Where can we help.
Maybe we can offer counseling services, or maybe you are a medical professional. Maybe you can donate blood. WE just want to be able to help relieve the suffering. People drove for hours with their boats to Texas to help people trapped by flood waters. Men left their families from all over the country to head to areas where they could help provide security, Power, Search and rescue.
How about those around us who are are struggling . hanging on by a thread.... In need of a life line
Many individuals who are LGBTQ and especially those who identify with the Mormon faith are facing heartache of epic proportions lately. It seems as if on every turn there is some new thing that "quakes , or floods" their very existence.
THe church stands behind a Baker who refuses to make a Gay couple a cake. They say it is religious freedom. Well, so If someone decides they don't want to serve a Mormon at their establishment would that be religious freedom too? Yes as businesses, you should have the right to refuse service to someone, but on the base of purely because of who they are?
Black, Latino, Gay?
How about Jewish?
Haven't we as a society come farther than that?
Why can't we just give an honest service to a paying courteous patron?
They are told repeatedly that this is a trial of this life and that in the next life they will be " free from this challenge" And we wonder why they are killing themselves in droves.
They are told that as long as they don't " act on it " they are ok.
"Its just like those who never get a chance to marry in this life, They must follow the law of Chastity as well."
Well, no not really. That person who hasn't been able to marry can date, Hold hands, heck they can even Kiss someone. They can have a relationship with another person. LGBT individuals are not afforded that option.
In Scripture it tells us it is not good for many to be alone. Men are that they might have Joy.
But we are to Believe that this only applies to Gods straight children?
I don't know what the answers are to many of these perplexing questions, but I do know this.
God loveth ALL his children. WE are taught that the first and great commandment is to Love God with all our Heart and the second is like unto it. Love thy neighbor as thyself.
This means it is not our place to judge them. Not our place to decide if they should be able to have the same rights as we do. Not our place to decide if they deserve our Love and friendship.
Now I am not always perfect at this, I am still learning and growing. But I think having a Gay son has taught me more about unconditional Love than I could have ever imagined.
IT has taught me to Look to my Savior as a guide to how I should treat others.
Their are those among us who are the casualties of the barrage of insensitive comments, bullying, Terrorizing, and isolation.
So as you think about how you can help these victims of these tragedies around you, Look around at those who are facing these other tragedies . Think about how you can love a bit louder. To follow up those words of " I love everyone" with some actions.
Maybe start with just listening a bit more.
Ask them to tell you their perspective.... Their story.
Listen, Really listen.
Practice having Empathy.
Just be a friend.
You don't have to agree with them.
Maybe they don't like that you like the Raiders ?
But they will still be a friend to you
Did we ask before we gave blood if it was going to a black, Jewish or Gay person? No
WE just give it freely for anyone who needs it.
Do we ask if our donation is going to help a " Mexican" ? Of course not
WE just want to help those who are in need.
We as members of the United States Live in one of the greatest countries in the World. Our cities have rallied around others who are in the war zones and in need of help. Don't look so far outside your backyard to think there aren't some right there.
Maybe you could consider Joining Mormons Building Bridges On Oct 20th for the annual Pride Parade, where you can Show your Love for some of Gods Children who could really use it right now.
THAT my friends is what the Savior would have us do. I think it is i these times of disaster and tragedy that true greatness can come. Maybe in the wake of these tragedies we can just look at each other as Human beings, who want and need love.
****AS a side note I am so proud to call Vegas my home . To see people in droves coming out to help. Lines of over 6 hours to give blood, Over 1.3 million raised for the victims. Uber and Lyft drivers offering rides for free to help those affected. First responders running in while everyone else was running out. Doctors and nurses from everywhere jumping in to help however is needed. Over 2500 listing for people of places to stay. Food being donated to Ronald MC Donald house and Red cross in droves. Way to step up and Bear one anothers burdens Las Vegas!!!
Wednesday, November 6, 2013
Father forgive them
I read an article this week that really has had a profound effect on me. It was entitled the Saviors last lecture and it can be found here http://www.ldsmag.com/article/1/13506
The author discusses how the savior taught us about forgiveness .Hanging on the cross between two thieves, our Savior spoke in reference to his crucifiers, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.”
The author discusses how the savior taught us about forgiveness .Hanging on the cross between two thieves, our Savior spoke in reference to his crucifiers, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.”
There are many things the Savior could have said in reference to his crucifiers. He could have said, “Father forgive them, for they will pay a price how great they know not.” He could have said, “Father, forgive them, for wrong hast been done unto them.” He could have said simply, “Father, forgive them.” However, in adding the explanation, “for they know not what they do,” The Savior taught us the secret to forgiveness.
She goes on to explain that many times people do not realize the hurt or pain that they cause by their actions. Most people are not trying to ruin our lives or inflict great pain.
She goes on to explain that many times people do not realize the hurt or pain that they cause by their actions. Most people are not trying to ruin our lives or inflict great pain.
If we can operate on that assumption, we can more easily let go of the pain.
I heard a quote one time that when we refuse to forgive, it is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die. The anger and pain can destroy us.
As I thought about circumstances in my life where someone has caused me great pain, I can try and look at that from the standpoint that they may not even realize how badly that hurt.
Now in the case of our son being Gay, we have had a few instances that are VERY painful, as I know some other families have experienced as well. A few people I know have had truly terrible and unchristlike things said about them or their family member.
Did they really mean to hurt them or us?
Not having walked in our shoes, do they really know what it is like?
I think for the most part they probably don't.
Does this make it all go away? Of course not, but I think maybe this can help some of us find a path to forgiveness for those who just don't understand our journey.
For those who are on the outside watching maybe they can try and get to know our Gay family and Friends. They could try and get to know us and how we feel . Maybe it will give them pause to stop and pray to our Heavenly Father who created us and ask to have more compassion and empathy, ... or at least less judgement.
As a mother we want to protect our children. We know they aren't perfect, but we love them fiercely and we want the best for them. Wouldn't you parents agree?
Imagine having that child now not invited to family functions, or having other family members kept away from them so they don't "rub off on them" . Being told they will "never be happy if they CHOOSE to live like that" They would be " better off dead".
To have a church that you have grown up in and loved for your whole life, suddenly have no place for you. Being told that "God does not make Gay people." HMMMM so where did I come from then?
To be bullied and made fun of. To have people constantly talk behind your back. To face the prospect of living a life alone never having a close relationship with someone, never having children. In some states even being fired from your job just because you are gay.
Can you even try and imagine?
I am not sure why Heavenly Father gave us this path , but I know that I can take my guidance from him and my Savior. I can bear anothers burdens. I can mourn with those that mourn, I can Love unconditionally.
None of us are perfect. We all make mistakes and I think for the most part we are all doing our best. As much as I want to have that forgiveness available for me and my family, I know it is there for all who ask.
My job is to learn to better forgive, even when they don't even seem to care.
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