True Millenialls

So I have to admit that I do not read the Ensign as much as I used to . Sometimes its hard to run across that article about the blessings of the temple, or eternal families, when I feel that is being withheld from us because we have a gay son. 
But this week for institute , our teacher asked us to read the article by Elder Russel M Nelson entitled Stand as true millennials from the October Ensign. 
Stand as True Millenialls
" A true millennial is a man or woman whom God trusted enough to send to earth during the most compelling dispensation in the history of this world. A true millennial is a man or woman who lives now to help prepare the people of this world for the Second Coming of Jesus Christ and His millennial reign. " 


I have struggled over the last 5 almost 6 years to many questions , one that MY son had to struggle with as well as so many others is "who they really are" They are asked and sometimes forced to live a life contrary to their very nature if they want the blessings of the gospel, and quite frankly want to "fit in" in society. 

Elder Nelson says.... Therefore, my first recommendation is to learn for yourselves who you really are. Ask your Heavenly Father in the name of Jesus Christ how He feels about you and your mission here on earth. If you ask with real intent, over time the Spirit will whisper the life-changing truth to you. Record those impressions, review them often, and follow through with exactness."

Each one of us has a divine mission. WE need to ask our Heavenly Father what that is. As I sat in class and we went over this again, the words came to my mind 

" I have already told you what I need you to do"
  Yes, 
Several times I have had the feeling and impression that Tyler is part of our family because Heavenly Father knew we would love him and not be afraid to be a voice of Empathy and Love and compassion to others like him. HE knew that it would be difficult for us in the beginning , but if we would turn to him he would help us every step of the way. This is not the path I would have thought my life would take, but IT is the mission that Heavenly Father knew he could trust me with. 

This also reminds me of the strength of these individuals like Tyler, Casey, Rachelle,  Spencer, and Jordan, and MANY MANY others . What spirits they are to have accepted the assignment to come to this earth knowing they would be judged harshly by others, ridiculed, and may times hated just for who they are. 

Elder Nelson continues ...."God has always asked His covenant children to do difficult things. Because you are covenant-keeping sons and daughters of God living in the latter part of these latter days, the Lord will ask you to do difficult things. You can count on it—Abrahamic tests did not stop with Abraham (see D&C 101:4–5)."

This life was not meant to be easy. WE came her to learn and be tested. To prove ourselves to God. I believe in a loving God who knows us perfectly, and will judge us according to the Desires of our hearts. 
Alma 41:3  And it is requisite with the justice of God that men should be judged according to their works; and if their works were good in this life, and the desires of their hearts were good, that they should also, at the last day, be restored unto that which is good.

I don't mean to sound like I am complaining because I am not , just merely sharing my thoughts. This is one of the other things that I feel Heavenly Father has prompted me to do, to write and share my experiences, and feelings in the hope it can help someone else along the path. 

Now I know for those of you who may have read this article previously, or here in the ink, are saying ... " this article is all about sharing the gospel and  doing missionary work."

That is true it does talk about  that, but for me, the messages that are contained herein , can apply to so many things, and for me, it was another confirmation to me from my Heavenly Father that he knows me and is aware of me. 

He is giving me answers in some very unexpected places. Many times it is through music, sometimes it is in a sacrament meeting talk, or a message at Time out for Women? 

Today it was in my study at my institute class,  from a message from one of his prophets. 

Haven't you ever discussed  general conference and see that everyone got something different out of it? 
Maybe this is only for me. 

Maybe this is just for my kids and grandkids to read and learn from?

Or maybe this might help one other person who is struggling with their mission and purpose here in this life.


Elder Nelson states ...".You will have days when you will be thoroughly discouraged. So pray for courage not to give up!"

My mission here is important . 

Your mission is important

Your Heavenly Father Loves you and wants you to be happy.
Take the time to read this article and see what little nuggets stand out to you.

Being a millennial is not about how old you are. It is about being strong and courageous to move forward in doing what God has sent you here to do.  
Don't let the angry voices of the world drag you away form your Heavenly Father and Savior Jesus Christ.  

Remember those things you have felt and learned. 

Hang on to that

You are mighty warriors in the kingdom of God .

You have worth and value

You just might be the one who can help someone else to hang on to the light they once had.

Together we can become better disciples of Christ. Practicing Charity and the pure love of Christ. 

WE won't always get it right, but as long as we keep trying, that is all he asks of us.  
and to echo Elder Nelson Pray for Courage not to give up 

Can you feel it?

Have you ever really stopped to think about how someone else feels about something? 

I mean really?

WE encounter people frequently who seem to be rude , or angry, or sad, or maybe a little strange, and we pass judgement about them and move on. Never pausing to think about what might actually be going on in their life.

Brene' Brown  has several books on the subject, but this video will give you a brief but powerful lesson on Empathy

Empathy by Brene' Brown

Empathy Fuels connection, while sympathy drives disconnection. 

On my Journey of learning I have a gay son, I have learned a lot about empathy. Now I thought I was a pretty empathetic and compassionate person before , but There was so much for me to learn and discover. It really takes practice. 

If I just feel bad ( sympathy) that someone feels left out, or picked on,sad, or angry, there is no way for me to connect with them. They do not feel validated or heard. They will never feel as if I

 really care. 

But when I can try and understand where they are coming from. Try and put myself in their shoes.

WE can find a common ground. I  can begin to "FEEL " what they are feeling. 

With so much happening in the world right now with racial tensions and people "picking sides " for one thing or another, we can never come to a peaceful understanding. 

What I have also learned is that having empathy can be very painful. As I said before I thought I was a pretty compassionate person. I will bring you a meal, send you a card, run some errands whatever you need. Sometimes what they need is just someone to listen. Someone to understand. You don't 

have to agree with them, or even completely "get it"  to have empathy. 

I love this quote by Mother Theresa " if you are judging someone, you have no time to love them"

  

Now for those who don't know me, I am a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, or Mormon as some know it. 

When I was baptized I made a promise to take upon my self the name of Jesus Christ.

That I would follow him. 

In our scriptures  Mosiah 18:9 it makes it very clear what our commitment is.

9 Yea, and are willing to mourn with those that mourn; yea, and comfort those that stand in need of comfort, and to stand as witnesses of God at all times and in all things, and in all places that ye may be in, even until death, that ye may be redeemed of God, and be numbered with those of the first resurrection, that ye may have eternal life— 

My responsibility is to be a disciple of Christ. The first and great commandment is to "Love the Lord thy God with all thy hear and in all thy ways acknowledge him." The second is like unto it." Love thy neighbor as thyself."

Who is my Neighbor??

That is the question we must all ask ourselves and then realize that Everyone is our neighbor. The Savior wants us to love everyone. He needs us to look after one another. 

To help one another.

Charity is the pure love of Christ. 

I think so many people confuse loving and not judging with acceptance or condoning. WE will not always agree with others, we may not understand , but that does not mean we cannot love them or have empathy for them. 

It really made me sad when comments after the Pulse night club shooting were said in effect that." Well , look where they were . They deserved it." 

So because someone is gay and chose to hangout in a place where they were accepted for who they were, they deserved to be shot? 

OR comments after many of the  police shootings, "well, they were running away, they had a history of problems with the law "and on and on..

So again because they were not perfect and maybe they were scared and ran away, they deserved to be shot?? 

Is that what we have come to as a people? 

Now I am not here to be controversial . I am not judging the police officers, nor the victims, but can't we try and understand how the families of those who are killed are hurting? They just lost their  Father, Son, uncle , brother. 

Can we try and understand that most police officers are really just trying to protect and serve? That they are put in situations where they have to make snap judgments of what they think is best and there is no ill intent involved?  

Instead of taking a stand on our moral high ground, Can't we just try and find common ground? A human decency to look at them as another human being who is struggling with something right now? Probably more than we could ever imagine.

IT seems as if everyone thinks their opinion is the only one that matters. 

That they are right, and any other viewpoint is WRONG

I guess the best part of this should be that we don't have to carry the burden of being the judge in these situations. Our responsibility is to reach and and be understanding of all sides. Try and have a paradigm shift  and see it from the other persons point of view.   

Listen

Take it in

Try and step into their world for a minute

As a parent, we teach our children and set examples and hope they will follow them, but sometimes they make choices we don't agree with. Sometimes they find themselves in some dark places. 

Do we reach out in love to the parents or  even the individual? 

Or do we say. " well that's too bad.  It's their own fault." 

" They deserve it" 

Another such incident is at the Olympics when Gabby Douglas did not put her hand over her heart at the Medal ceremony. She was crucified all over social media for that.

 Why didn't she? 

 I don't know, but I don't really need to know. I would hope that it is not some disrespect for our country, but ultimately it is her right and choice to do so. 

I choose to think that maybe she was a bit overwhelmed having competed in her last Olympics, Having won a gold medal and was just taking it all in . 

Meaning no disrespect at all. 

To be in the spotlight of millions as you had a moment of contemplation and failed to do a simple act of placing your hand on your heart.

I certainly would not want a camera following my every move. To have every action I took scrutinized by the masses who expect their own version of perfection.

Well guess what ?? 

None of us are perfect

We all mess up sometimes. We all have had those lapses in judgement when handling a difficult situation.

AS we practice having Empathy for others our hearts will expand. WE will find a greater understanding and love we have not felt before. The down side to that is, that sometimes it can be very painful.

 Recently a friend of ours lost their 15 yr old daughter in a fluke incident when  she had an allergic reaction to an antibiotic  after having her wisdom teeth removed. 

The empathy I felt for them was almost unbearable. A friend actually posted a comment that she "felt guilty that she just kept crying"  She should not feel guilty. Her empathy for our friend did not negate the feelings of those parents. It just proved that she was truly feeling empathy . WE could put ourselves in her their shoes and "feel the hurt "of losing one of our children.

WE don't need to let it consume us, but if we are truly going to be able to comfort and mourn with others, we need to "feel it" 

That Empathy will fuel a connection that can be gained no other way 

I am no expert or authority on anything, just a mom who is trying to make the world a little better for her family and those around her.

It makes me sad to see the hatred and mean spirited things that are being done and said to others in the name of "principles" or for any reason.  

As a follower of Christ I am certainly not perfect, and I have much to learn, but I do strive to do what he would want me to do. I strive to be a little better. To love a little more, be a little kinder. Each day I have a choice in whom I will emulate and follow. 

Im sure there are people out there who wish I would just stop talking about or posting things about LGBT issues . 

I won't

I can't

If I can help one person who is traveling that journey not feel isolated and alone, then I have dome what my Savior requires of me. If I can keep one person from taking their life because they can reach out to me and know I will listen and be there for them, 

I will have done my job

If I can be there for a mother when she has to bury her child because they just couldn't bear the pain and they took their life, 

I will hug her and cry with her and give her all the support and understanding I can. 

They are children of God and they deserve the same rights and privileges that we enjoy. They deserve to find love and be loved.

I will be a voice of Hope 

There are so many difficult things we must face in this life. Our background and experiences are all different.WE all have different perspectives. Why not try and learn from those ? 

Maybe we could all try ..... Just try and give others the benefit of the doubt.

 Seek to truly understand where they might be coming from. IF you still disagree with them. 

That's ok. 

We can still be kind.

We can still show love and empathy.

We can agree to disagree ... Agreeably 

Maybe ... Just maybe we will find more peace in our own life.

My testimony

Our stake  has a Testimony tuesday and our ward was responsible to cover it for this month, so I thought I would share my testimony  here as well. Maybe something I say will help someone else feel they are not alone. 

When you grow up in  the  church, there is a plan laid out for you. Grow up, go to school, serve a mission if you are a young man, get married , have children, and Endure to the end, find your happily ever after , right?  Well, For some of us, maybe even many of us, Life doesn’t always take this  straight path. We tend to look at our lives, and think “ what did I do wrong?”  We hear the testimonies about how “ all my kids served missions, and married in the temple”  We hear the accolades of the eagle scout and the young woman who earned her YW  medallion at 14 etc etc. we hear about how life just seems to be going perfectly for everyone. That they have it all figured out and they have been so blessed.  Don’t get me wrong. That is wonderful for them, but If your life doesn’t match up to that, it can be difficult to listen to that over and over again. You can begin to feel  well… “Less than”

Over the last 48 years of my life my testimony has grown and evolved. And sometimes even faltered. I had to realize that sometimes I was practicing Satans plan with my children. “Just do it like I said” and we will all be happy . My boys lost interest in scouting and did not complete their eagle. There were various circumstances that played into that , which aren’t really critical at this point, but it  is important that I realized that the Lord loved them even if they didn’t fit that perfect mold . The most important thing for me as their mother was to love them and learn which battles were important to fight. Fighting about Projects and merit badges was not one of them.  Maintaining a positive relationship with my daughter was more important than fighting with her about whether she was working on her personal progress. Of learning that I didn’t want her to hate the church because they dictated to her this program she needed to follow.

  Again, I am not saying that it is not a good program. 

I earned mine as a senior in High school. I learned many great things that have helped me become a better person and mother, but there was not a driving force for my daughter to earn hers. Yes she completed some things, She participated in many activities  that could apply to the program, but I was not going to be able to “force” her to complete it. I had to learn that they had their agency, and even in church matters, I had to let them choose. I encourage and guide, but I can’t force. That does not make me a bad , or “less than” parent, and it does not make them bad kids.

Brad Wilcox has a talk out called “Learning,  not Earning Heaven” 

That is what The lord has been doing for me over the last 48 years of my life. HE is helping me to “learn Heaven”

Life has a way of teaching us great lessons, especially  when we find ourselves off what is viewed as the prescribed path. Another such instance was when our second son Tyler came out as gay. “How does a Mormon family end up with a gay son?” This was one of my first thoughts.

I didn’t know anyone else who was Mormon and Gay ( or so I thought) IT was during those next few days, months and now years, that I have learned some very profound lessons. I have learned that Heavenly Father is in control and is VERY aware of all of his children. I have learned that he trusted our family with this special spirit because he could trust that we would love him and have the courage to face this and help others face it as well. I have learned to Love in a whole new way. I have learned to see others as the Savior sees them. I have learned to really rely on my Heavenly Father to help me get through some very difficult times. I have had to really pray and ask for his help in understanding teachings and doctrines that seem so hurtful and unchristlike.

Have I had any profound answers as to Why people are born gay? No

Have I had any answers as to why the plan of happiness seems to exclude my son and so many others like him? Why  he would be sent here to earth to live alone, and never know the joy of having a family , and companionship? Why did it seem that this loving God that I believed in and trusted would sentence my son to this, would leave him out of this plan for his children ?

No, not  specifically ,  But I have had answers .

 I think this test is more for the rest of us . A test of how we are going to treat those who are different than us. How are we going to look after those sheep that don’t look, or act like we think they should.   Will we try and bring them into the fold and love them as God would , or discard them ?

I love music, and my Heavenly Father knows well he can talk to me through music. I have had some very profound messages through music , but I will just share 2 to illustrate some of what I have learned in these last few years.

The first one was early on in this “learning “ experience.

I was still quite troubled with the situation of our son being Gay, and  of the profound loss I felt for him and frankly for us too. That perfect little plan I had learned all my life just didn’t make sense anymore .My heart was aching for this boy of mine.

 I was at a Time out for Women event at the Cashman center . IF you have never attended , they are awesome. Anyway,  In between speakers, they have musical guests. That weekend , one of the guests was Dallyn Bayles. As he came onto the stage, and  the music began, my heart just about burst. My eyes certainly did. The music was that of a song By Michael Schultz called “He’s my son”  A song I had heard before ..

Here are the words to the song….I'm down on my knees again tonight,
I'm hoping this prayer will turn out right.
See, there is a boy that needs Your help.
I've done all that I can do myself
His mother is tired,
I'm sure You can understand.
Each night as he sleeps
She goes in to hold his hand,
And she tries
Not to cry
As the tears fill her eyes.

Can You hear me?
Am I getting through tonight?
Can You see him?
Can You make him feel all right?
If You can hear me
Let me take his place some how.
See, he's not just anyone, he's my son.

Sometimes late at night I watch him sleep,
I dream of the boy he'd like to be.
I try to be strong and see him through,
But God, who he needs right now is You.
Let him grow old,
Live life without this fear.
What would I be
Living without him here?
He's so tired,
And he's scared
Let him know that You're there.

Can You hear me?

Can You see him?
Can You make him feel all right?
If You can hear me
Let me take his place some how.
See, he's not just anyone, he's my son.

Can You hear me?
Am I getting through tonight?
Can You see him?
Can You make him feel all right?
If You can hear me
Let me take his place somehow.
See, he's not just anyone.

Can You hear me?
Can You see him?
Please don't leave him,
He's my son.

This was a direct answer to my prayers.  Heavenly Father had put all these details in place of Bro. Bayles, getting permission to use Mr Schultz’s song in a public performance, I , obtaining a ticket and being in attendance at this venue to hear a profound message that He hears my prayers and he is there. That Tyler is his son too!

Needless to say that whole evening was very emotional for me. I didn’t have all the answers I sought, but I had a profound peace to just trust the Lord in this.That he is there watching over Tyler.

Another such Learning event was another time I was really struggling with things, and feeling very heavy with burdens. Church is difficult for me sometimes , as I never knew when I might hear some hurtful remarks. I know I love my Savior but sitting through lessons that talked about how evil gay people are, or Why people are just not strong enough who leave the church were more than I could take. They don’t know some of these people like I do. They don’t know my heart, or Tylers heart. But It is still so painful. I feel so isolated and alone at church many times. I go because I have children who I am responsible for, but sometimes  well... This one particular Sunday I just couldn’t do it, so I went to my car after sacrament to wait it out for my kids . I turned on the radio. ( I listen to the Christian radio station) and the first song that was playing was “Just be Held “ by Casting crowns.

Here are the lyrics…  Hold it all together, everybody needs you strong
But life hits you out of nowhere and barely leaves you holding on

And when you're tired of fighting
Chained by your control
There's freedom in surrender
Lay it down and let it go

So when you're on your knees and answers seem so far away
You're not alone, stop holding on and just be held
Your world's not falling apart, it's falling into place
I'm on the throne, stop holding on and just be held
Just be held
Just be held

If your eyes are on the storm you'll wonder if I love you still
But if your eyes are on the cross you'll know I always have and I always will

And not a tear is wasted
In time, you'll understand
I'm painting beauty with the ashes
Your life is in My hands

So when you're on your knees and answers seem so far away
You're not alone, stop holding on and just be held
Your world's not falling apart, it's falling into place
I'm on the throne, stop holding on and just be held
Just be held
Just be held

Lift your hands, lift your eyes
In the storm is where youll find Me
And where you are, I'll hold your heart
I'll hold your heart
Come to Me, find your rest
In the arms of the God who won't let go

So when you're on your knees and answers seem so far away
You're not alone, stop holding on and just be held
Your world's not falling apart, it's falling into place
I'm on the throne, stop holding on and just be held (stop holding on)
Just be held

So as you can probably see, Here again was another profound answer from my loving Heavenly Father In the parking lot of the chapel. I think the words explain the message perfectly.

Another song that played that day was “Breathe” By Johny Diaz. 

 Here is just a bit of the chorus…Breathe, just breathe
Come and rest at My feet
And be, just be
Chaos calls but all you really need
Is to just breathe

These songs will randomly come on at times when I again need to be reminded of my Heavenly Fathers love for me, of his constant companionship with me in some turbulent waters. Heavenly Father knows me and loves me. He knows he can speak to me through music.

As a fitness trainer, we teach our clients about “Time under tension”  In order to strengthen our muscles, they need to be under tension, and the most growth comes when they are given “time under tension”

Our spirit is much the same way. When we are under tension( challenges/ trials) that is when we have the opportunity for the most growth. Heavenly Father knows what he is doing . He is trying to help us “learn” heaven and become the strong disciples he needs us to be . That requires us to spend “time under tension”  It is not pleasant , and sometimes is downright painful, but He will be right there with us cheering us on and counting the time until the tension can be released for maximum benefit.

So I know this seems like a novel, but as I contemplated my testimony and where I am today, this is at the core of what I feel compelled to share. IT is certainly not always easy, and I am sure that I frequently disappoint my Heavenly Father as I continue to try and “Learn” the lessons he is giving me. Those lessons which are shaping the person I am becoming . The Mother I am to my Children. The manner of Disciple I am trying to be . I have been asked the question of “why I stay in a church that is pushing my son and others like him away”  I stay because it is my church. I stay because I love my Savior. I stay because I trust my Savior and I am trying to learn all I can from Him.I trust that this loving God I know has a plan for ALL of his children. I stay because I have made covenants with Him, and I trust that the Tension he is putting me under is for my benefit. I stay because it is my responsibility to be a source of help and strength to others who are on this same path and need to know there is someone who knows and understands.

When I stumble and feel as if I can’t do it anymore, I am reminded to “Just Breathe” 

This life was never meant to be easy. If it was, there would be no growth. I continue to  try and learn the lessons that Heavenly Father wants me to learn, and do my best each day to be the kind of woman he sent me here to be.

In the name of Jesus Christ Amen

Exercise makes us stronger

At the gym today I noticed a few men who were working the circuit of Weight machines with me. I noticed a larger gentleman who appeared to be in good physical health, and as he switched to use the Machine after me, He had to reduce the weight that I had just used on the machine. This happened a few times and It made me think about the fact that I , A much smaller, woman, was able to lift more weight than this man. Not because I am necessarily stronger, but Because I have been consistently exercising those muscles, and have conditioned myself to where I am able to lift a heavier load than a few of these men.

I have to admit for a few minutes I was a bit "proud " of my accomplishments, but then my mind turned to another type of "exercise,"
An Exercise of the heart ,  our capacity to Love others, and see them as God sees them.

 Five years ago, I think I was pretty good at loving and not judging, but now with the growth and "exercise" I have had by learning that I have a gay son , I can Love so much more .

My ability to look past the labels, and boxes that people are in. To  see their eyes, and look into their hearts has grown tremendously.
The exercise I have used to try and be more like my Savior each day, has strengthened my ability to be a better child of God. I am certainly not perfect by any means, but I am stronger.

Another exercise is that of listening to the Still small voice and following its promptings. Learning to recognize that the Lord will often speak to us through Feelings


D&C 8:2-3  Yea, behold, I will tell you in your mind and in your heart, by the Holy Ghost, which shall come upon you and which shall dwell in your heart.

 3 Now, behold, this is the spirit of revelation

D&C 9:8-9  

But, behold, I say unto you, that you must study it out in your mind; then you must ask me if it be right, and if it is right I will cause that your bosom shall burn within you; therefore, you shall feel that it is right.

9 But if it be not right you shall have no such feelings, but you shall have a stupor of thought that shall cause you to forget the thing which is wrong; therefore, you cannot write that which is sacred save it be given you from me.

For years I have been praying about these issues regarding my gay son and so many others. I have not had any great revelations, but I have had MANY feelings,impressions and answers through music and other means, but mostly from the feelings that accompanied these experiences..

There was no denying that what I was feeling was what the Lord wanted me to know and DO.   As I exercised recognizing the spirits promptings in my life, It got easier. I could recognize when I would have those strong feelings that what I was doing was exactly what the Lord wanted me to do, even though many in the world , would judge me and even criticize me for doing something against what "they" thought was right.
People could not understand why a good mormon woman would go to a Gay pride parade, and then even go to a festival and give out hugs.

Hmm....... So do they think that they really didn't deserve to have my friendship and Love ?
I spent 10 hours at that festival talking with people, Listening to their stories and yes, hugging many of them.

The spirit let me know that I was doing exactly as the Savior expected of me. That does not mean I didn't have some anxious feelings. I spent a good majority of the day at our booth alone, because no one else would join me. That was a bit hard, and it gave me pause to reflect on the events going on. As I continued to exercise my Faith and trust in the Lord to help me accomplish his work, it became easier. Being a shy person compounded my anxiety to have to talk to,  and hug perfect strangers, but as I let the spirit work through me I could even approach them before they came to our booth.

 I remember a particular young woman. My guess was she was about 20-22 years old. She had a bit of a look of disgust on her face as she approached our booth, and she asked" Are you really a Mormon? " Yes I am I told her. I go to church every week. She said "so Why are you doing this? "  I explained that I was just there to show love and compassion to them. That even though I was Mormon that I loved them and I wanted to be there for them if they needed someone to talk to , or even if they just needed a hug"  She paused and stared at me for a moment then told me her heartbreaking story of growing up Mormon and Gay. How she was ostracized from her family . I cried with her, and when she was done, She said "this is cool"  I asked her if I could give her a hug and she agreed. I could sense her staunch demeanor melting just a bit as I could step in for just a moment and extend to her some love and understanding she had so desperately needed for so many years. All I did was listen for a while and give her a hug, but I knew it made a difference. We met many other wonderful people and even families. One is pictured here. These gentleman have adopted 4 children ( only the littlest one is pictured here)






“Your happiness now and for the eternities will unquestionably be determined by whether or not you follow the spiritual guidance of the Lord communicated through the Holy Ghost…


“The counsel of others and the programs of the Church are useful aids but not the best source of fundamental direction in your life. That guidance comes from the Lord through the Holy Ghost.


“Spirituality yields two fruits. The first is inspiration, that is, to know what to do. The second is power—the power of God or the capacity to do what one has been instructed to accomplish.” (Richard G. Scott, Finding Peace, Happiness, and Joy, p. 39-40)


Just like Physical exercise helps our body become stronger,

When we exercise our heart, and our mind , they become stronger. Why do they give us math problems to take home for homework? Because the "exercise " helps us learn the skill better.


So many in todays world do not want to exercise the skill of empathy, or even compassion. It takes effort to step out of the comfortable box that you know and listen to an others story. To truly try and see their point of view. It does not mean in the end that you may even agree with them. That is OK. But when you allow your heart to be open to the spirit of another, you cannot help but be changed. Little by little you will become better at being a true disciple of Christ. OF mourning with those who mourn, Bearing one anothers burdens and comforting those who stand in need of Comfort.

Working with Special needs children, I have been with some difficult children and adults. Life for some of them has been very difficult. AS I set aside my prejuidces and try to see them as the Savior sees them, I can find an empathy and love that I would not otherwise have. It does not mean I may not still struggle with their behaviors, but I can still love them. I can still do all in my power to help them. And least of all I can have empathy for the path they have walked.

I think all of us can use a little more exercise in our lives , in helping all of Gods children through this difficult journey of life.





from M Russel Ballard New Era March 2016





I believe that if we could truly understand the Atonement of the Lord Jesus Christ, we would realize how precious is one son or daughter of God. I believe our Heavenly Father’s everlasting purpose for His children is generally achieved by the small and simple things we do for one another. At the heart of the English word atonement is the word one. If all mankind understood this, there would never be anyone with whom we would not be concerned, regardless of age, race, gender, religion, or social or economic standing. We would strive to emulate the Savior and would never be unkind, indifferent, disrespectful, or insensitive to others. Richard G Scott

I think that says it all